We have hit that point in our house where Bubba might as well have a hearing problem because he doesn’t respond when we ask him to do things. Seriously my husband was convinced we needed to have his ears checked. Then I pointed out that he is just practicing selective hearing. I slyly asked Bubba if he could put his toys up… no response. Then I asked him if he wanted a cookie…”cookie, we have cookies mommy! I want one!!” See his hearing is just fine!
We have also gotten louder much to my husband’s dismay. I come from a loud passionate family. My hubby’s family is generally quiet so he isn’t used to the yelling. I know I need to work on it but I have a tendency to yell when I get frustrated or angry. Bubba is developing the same habit and it is driving my husband crazy.
So we have come up with a little sort of game. If I get frustrated or angry and start to yell, Bubba says “I love you mommy, did that make it better?” I don’t know if it is his sweet little voice or if it redirects my focus but it seems to work for now.
I am under no delusions that this will work forever but at least it works for now. I am sure we will need another solution in the next few months or years. So what does your family do to control outbursts?